It is part of human nature to sometimes feel like you are stuck in a rut. It’s the same humdrum episodes of life, every day, 24-7. It’s especially hard to come out of it and to feel awakened with new goals when you are already overly-obligated.
Psychology Today gives us the signs of someone actually being stuck in a rut:
- Day to day, you don’t look forward to much (other than maybe sleeping or just getting through whatever you’re doing).
- You’d like to get your creative juices flowing, but it seems someone left an empty juice bottle in the fridge.
- Even though you keeping checking things off your to do list, it doesn’t feel like you are getting much done.
- Your days all blur together, and it’s not weird to look up blinking and ask, “Is this Tuesday or Thursday?”
- By the time you get free-time, you are too tired to do something interesting with it or are just plain unmotivated.
- If you answered “How are you?” genuinely, you’d say something like, “Meh.”
- You fantasize about getting away (and not just away on vacation).
- You’d like to add something new to your life, but you’re sure that you’ll never have enough time and/or energy for it.
- You’re getting sick of hearing yourself complain about feeling stressed, tired, and unfulfilled.
- … and the Number One rut symptom: Even though you think you’d be happier if you made a change, it’s more comforting to stay the same and mope around about it.
Now, here’s the good news. Psych Central says to start with these ways to help you slowly climb out of that depressed state and start feeling like you are alive again:
- Go easy. Take things a little slower. Take the pressure off of yourself in any way you can — by giving yourself a longer deadline on a piece, or scratching out all items on your to-do list that can wait until next week — you will breathe a much-needed sigh of relief.
- Cry. Your body essentially purges toxins when you weep. It’s as if all your emotions are bubbling to the surface, and when you cry, you release them, which is why it is so cathartic. Whenever you allow the tears—a 10 or 15-minute crying fit—you always feel better.
- Help Someone. In the process of extending your hand, you are reminded that, although you feel alone in your pain, almost every human being is suffering in some form or another, and that if we see our pain as part of the collective pain of human suffering, we have each other and are in it together.
- Keep doing what you are doing. When you feel like you are literally in crutches, instead of throwing my arms up and yelling, “To hell with it!” You can take baby steps and do the thing that you are doing.
- Look for signs of hope. If you have something small in front of you — like a flower — that signifies hope, then you can always make that jump from darkness to light, even while sitting at your desk.
- Keep your mantras and remember all you have overcome and your victories. Mantras change every day. Today, go with “You are okay,” and “You are loved by God.” Sometimes, utter them in between sentences, while you try to breathe in deeply and exhale. Write down and read all you have accomplished, victories you have received, and miracles in your life. Read the list often.
- Pray and surround yourself with good people. Learn and pray the Serenity prayer and surround yourself with people that are positive, energetic, and sympathetic. Avoid gossipers, negative people, and people with bad habits. When you feel like a slug but still go out and surround yourself with a circle of friends, you will notice a surge of energy you didn’t have when you left the house.
- Do something new today: Haircut, outfit, nail polish, new coffee, new book, or go out to eat with a friend. Make this a habit.
Remember: This too shall pass but you have to get up and take the first step.
Ref. psychologytoday.com, psychcentral.com, theeverygirl.com
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